Lying
In the past, your parents have most likely told you a million negative things about lies. However, lying is actually an extremely complex ability that humans have learned over time. Your parents may have said to you to always act like you absolutely love a gift, even if it’s actually a piece of trash. In such social situations, you can avoid making somebody angry at you just by bending the truth. If you’re too honest (“That looks horrible!”) you will be viewed as rude and disrespectful. You may have even done this without realizing it.
By the time you’re age three, you’ve probably fibbed, whether it actually makes sense or not. (We all have that one kid in our families that still insists to this day that unicorns ate the last cookie.) By age five or six, you can probably get away with telling a small lie. On the contrary, the best time to lie is between age eighteen to twenty-nine. That’s when your brain is developed enough to spin a convincing lie, but not too old as to forget details.
There’s a number of ways to tell if somebody is lying. One of the ways is to start a regular conversation before you ask about the part they might lie about. Observe how much they gesture, and their general body behavior. When you ask the question, see if there's a major difference in their manner. If there is, it’s most likely a lie. However, this isn’t always a surefire way to tell. They may be nervous about something completely unrelated to lying. If you really want to figure out what they’re thinking, you’ll have to pay really close attention to their eyebrows and mouth. The little twitches you might spot are called microexpressions. If they frown, but only for a split second, that’s the only way to tell for certain that they’re lying about their feelings. No other way has been found so far that can predict hidden emotions so accurately.
In short, lying isn’t always bad. It can strengthen relationships and just make things easier in general. 📷
By Andie
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